Sometimes we are put in “what may appear to us as harsh” situations for us to recognize our true gifts and talents. Choose the best steps to empower yourself from this situation and it will open up new possibilities and experiences in your life which would serve you well on your journey ahead. Always make the choice to empower yourself rather than succumb to defeat of any sort, the likes of self pity etc.
Meeting someone else’s needs:- Giving them what they truly want from us for them to “be at home” and not necessarily what we want to give to them. Consider this carefully as we tend to think that we are meeting someone else’s needs when we give them what we think they want even if this may not be what they truly want from us at a particular time. So be cognizant of each other’s needs to “be at home” in any interdependent relationship.
We should not hold people to their “mistakes” of the past if they have changed or are showing signs that they are willing to change for the better. We too would not like others to hold us to our “mistakes” if we have grown and move on from the state that we were in at the time of the “mistake”. In other words, allow others the space to change for the better and try to understand them from their current, changed state and not from their previous state. Doing so also shows growth on our end. See the post on “Emotional Maturity” for more on this.
While it’s important for us to focus and work on our dreams, it’s equally important for us to enjoy the process to getting there, one moment at a time. Being grateful for where we are in the process helps us to be in that state where we can enjoy the moment and hence enjoy the process. Patience comes from enjoying the moment. Impatience comes from focusing only on the dreams and ignoring the joy that can come from the process.
It’s beneficial to us when we say to another that we are sorry if our action toward them was not of our highest form as it would not have produced the results that was in alignment with our highest aspirations. Saying that we are sorry gives us a second chance to achieve that optimal results. Remember, we are all a work in progress.
There are certain things in life that are meant for each of us to help with our growth but we don’t always know how to get it. When we go about life with anger, greed, lack of integrity, lack of compassion, fear, low self esteem, worrying about what people will say etc. instead of being our authentic self, we delay the time these things come to us. When we follow the guidance of our hearts or intuition/gut feelings which is the guidance from our soul, we go about getting what is meant for us the quickest. In other words, making ourselves ready for when the universe brings that opportunity for growth to us so we can be in the right situation to earn it as opposed to missing it because we are unprepared.
Emotional Maturity:- When we can look at a situation and try to see the lesson or the positive message in it rather than succumbing to negative emotions, the likes of anger, revenge, choosing to be hurt, etc.