From my eBook: Self-Mastery/True Self-Empowerment by Joycelyn Marshall
Be cognizant of each other’s needs to “be at home” in any interdependent relationship.
Give them what they truly want from us for them to “be at home”. Consider this carefully as we sometimes tend to think that we are meeting someone else’s need to “be at home” in an interdependent relationship when we give them what we think they want because that’s what we want from them, when this may not be what they truly need from us.



There are certain things in life that are meant for each of us to help with our growth but we don’t always know how to get it. When we go about life with anger, greed, lack of integrity, lack of compassion, fear, low self esteem, worrying about what people will say etc. instead of being our authentic self, we delay the time these things come to us. When we follow the guidance of our hearts or intuition/gut feelings which is the guidance from our soul, we go about getting what is meant for us the quickest. In other words, making ourselves ready for when the Universe brings that opportunity to us so we can be in the right “state of being” to act on it as opposed to missing it because we are unprepared.
Your emotional pain is caused when “your perception of what’s in front of you” seems worse than what you expected.
Stop for a few seconds to acknowledge and be grateful for who you are and where you are on your journey. Make the choice to move forward in the healthy state of joy and happiness. We may not always be in control of the circumstances in our lives nor our instinctive reactions to those circumstances. But we are in control of how we react beyond our instinctive reactions. Always make the choice that would put you in your purest and highest standing. Ask the question, “What would I, in my purest form, do?”. Then take that action even if it means pushing through your immediate fears. If you take full responsibility for your actions, then you would be inspired to make the choice that would place you in your highest position.
Stand out instead of fading into the background.
Where there is a fear of the “dark”, create “light” in every sense. Let in natural light where possible, turn on the electrical light where needed, seek information to understand, trust and illuminate with your love. For what’s in the “dark” is exactly the same as when we turn on the “light”. The difference is that we cannot see in the “dark” and so we develop a fear of what we cannot see, the unknown. So create “light” to remove the fear of the “dark”, the unknown.