From my eBook: Self-Mastery/True Self-Empowerment by Joycelyn Marshall
Turn away from the edge and see it from a broader perspective
Sometimes we are put in a situation we’re totally unprepared for and we cannot see how it can benefit us. So we project from a space of lack and start playing an illusionary, disastrous outcome over and over in our mind until we’re stuck in emotional pain. Try to stop fighting the situation and instead surrender to it. This will help to calm those negative thoughts and allow in a sense of peace that you need to make good decisions. Then try to see the situation without your fears and then choose the best steps to empower yourself.
Stand out instead of fading into the background.
Don’t force anything or anyone to fit your schedule. They too have to go at their pace. If it is necessary then negotiate with love and understanding of your and their situation. We don’t have to be “right”. We just have to do what’s best for us to move smoothly along our journey and sometimes it means compromising to get a good relationship with others which will make us happy or provide some means of fulfillment. If you feel the need to be “right” in any sort of negotiations instead of trying to reach the best solution for all parties involved (which includes you), then turn your love on yourself and take time to reflect on what needs to be addressed.
Where there is a fear of the “dark”, create “light” in every sense. Let in natural light where possible, turn on the electrical light where needed, seek information to understand, trust and illuminate with your love. For what’s in the “dark” is exactly the same as when we turn on the “light”. The difference is that we cannot see in the “dark” and so we develop a fear of what we cannot see, the unknown. So create “light” to remove the fear of the “dark”, the unknown.
Focus all of your thoughts on maximizing your outcome and detach lovingly from focusing on what others will gain from your action by wishing them well with their blessing for it is meant for them. 
You are to yourself what you feel. If you feel worthy, you are worthy; if you feel that you can achieve it, you will achieve it; if you feel accomplished, you are accomplished. For only you know your true feelings, your true desires, your highest aspirations and what will truly fulfill you. You are therefore the most powerful to always make you feel the best about yourself. Always take control of this as these are the energies that you are transmitting to the Universe.
Stop to pat yourself on the back regularly for it is a process.
Joycelyn Marshall 